Why is it that we humans frequently need to find someone or something to blame? When something upsetting happens, if we can’t blame someone else, then we usually end up blaming ourselves. What if there were no one to blame and everyone and everything to thank?
A very dear friend called me recently at a very low moment. She has been suffering with a myriad of physical issues for several years. She began our conversation with, “Dianne, what awful thing have I done to cause myself all this pain?”
I happen to know she is quite aware of the Law of Attraction and the Power of Intention, which posits that “like attracts like,” therefore we draw to us that which resonates with what we are thinking and feeling. Based on that she believes she has brought about her own suffering. Has she? The answer to why she suffers is deeper than that.
What if there is never anyone or anything to blame? We seek to blame when something awful and unpleasant exists in our life, yet aren’t we actually seeking to revel in our victimhood? When we assign blame, aren’t we celebrating our suffering?
What difference does it make? Did assigning blame ever really make you feel better? I think it just perpetuates your agony by keeping the injustice in the forefront of your mind.
What if our struggles are there to open us up to compassion, for ourselves and for the world? Could our Soul ordain the likelihood of challenges to occur as a means to move us away from taking life for granted and toward recognizing gratitude for moments when love and beauty shine through – a call from a friend, the purr of a cat, or the sun shining brightly through a window to light the room.
We miss the many moments that are gifts to us when we get distracted by the outside world. For example, right now I am looking out of my office window at several trees filled with delicate pink blooms and my feline friend is draped across my lap as I type. At this moment, life is pure peace, love and beauty.
Sure, any moment the peace could get interrupted by a calamity, large or small, but I will be much better able to respond appropriately because of my deep awareness of this moment.
How about you? While you are reading, what is in your awareness? What are you grateful for? One friend finds gratitude in his motto, “Every day above ground is a good one.”
You can blame others or yourself if you like, but as for me, I prefer to place my attention on gratitude for whatever is in my life at the moment. It is my experience that acceptance of the present moment primes the pump for more good to enter and that is the key to The Secret.
Why not try assigning gratitude to your circumstances instead of blame and see if it lessens your suffering? Don’t take my word for it. Prove it in your own life.
“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.”
~ Denis Waitley
